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Are Homosexual Groomers and Those They Groom Consensual?

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Regular readers of my ministry know that I do not avoid hard questions, nor am I afraid to make hard statements. This brief article is prompted by the unbiblical teaching of a writer (see A/854 and A/857) concerning homosexuality. In part of his stance he refers to those young people who have been groomed by unscrupulous homosexual predators, as if this precludes them from guilt. I will now ask questions and make statements as moot points, because some who have been groomed may not be part of the collusion.

Very recently, the media put out stories about the killers of ‘baby Bulger’. Psychologists were quoted – that at the age the killers struck, they did not have the intellectual capacity to understand the consequences of their actions. Yet, they also add that the two young killers understood right from wrong. Their opinions, and those of the writer in question, do not agree with scripture, reality, and God’s authoritative view on sin.

It is fact that the killers, though very young themselves, deliberately took baby Bulger to a place where they could not be seen. They looked around to determine if they were being watched. Then they committed the foul murder. The very fact that they did all this in secret and tried to avoid being watched shows a definite understanding that what they were doing was wrong. Scripturally, it does not matter if they could foretell the consequences.

Some might say youngsters are not this deliberate. Oh yes they are! Elsewhere I have written of a gang of five year olds surrounding another youngster, who was on the floor. One of the boys, wearing Doc Martin boots, was gleefully kicking the downed boy in the head and stamping on it. The boys ran off when challenged, itself an indication of their acknowledgement of guilt. They were violent because they enjoyed it; I witnessed this kind of behaviour many times when I lived on a rough council estate years ago. And, they KNEW what they were doing was wrong – evidenced in their lies, deception and wilfulness. Simple. Even those barely able to talk will make excuses and tell simple lies when found out in what mothers call ‘being naughty’, showing they know they are doing wrong. Naughtiness in biblical language is called sin! From a very young age children are prone to sin and know when they are doing wrong. Let us now apply this to grooming...

Many youngsters who have been groomed, and possibly wish to leave their former lifestyle, blame their groomers for their later homosexual ideas and desires. Yes, this is a true statement. But, it is also a flawed one that avoids hard truth.

In the narratives I have come across, and in personal interviews, I always probe superficial answers and comments. Based on what I know about human frailty and proneness to sin, I always delve far deeper than most people, and must ask relevant questions. The writer I referred to does not have this ability and accepts superficial excuses from those who were groomed.

It is true that many youngsters are drawn into homosexuality by predators. But, does this then make those who are groomed guiltless? (Remember, these are moot points). In many reports, those who are groomed are often drawn into the predators’ webs by their OWN sin!

How many acknowledge that it all began with being plied with alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, pizzas, money, gifts, knowing what they were doing? How many admit to going to an adult’s home, when all the warnings have been given by parents, police and the media? How many agree that they were willing to do the predators’ bidding in order to gain something for themselves? I have not noticed testimonies other than this kind.

Now, it is true they could not foresee the consequences of entering into homosexual activities, and that many thought of what they did as a ‘bit of a laugh’, or as a way to get something out of the predators, but the stark fact remains – they allowed adult sexual perversion by themselves being sinful. They KNEW what they did was wrong, but they did it anyway; modern youngsters are very good at this. So, is their ‘reason’ for being homosexual in teen and later life really caused by the predators? Or, by their own greed and lusts? After all, a bad habit is just that, and can be stopped instantly if there is a will to do so.

In God’s eyes the reasons for sinning are irrelevant. He asks “Did you commit this sin?” If they did, then they are guilty. He does not allow “But I was groomed” or “The devil made me do it” as an excuse. Sin is sin. Guilt is guilt. If we are told something is sin, so do not do it, that is sufficient to attract guilt if the thing warned against is done. This was the basis of the very first sins in the world in Adam and Eve! And they KNEW there would be consequences!

Yes, the parents should know where their children are at all times. Yes, they should keep them indoors after late afternoon. Yes, most homosexuals admit to their lust for sex with children. Yes, all predators are guilty. Yes, the children do not understand the dynamics of homosexual sin and that it will gain in strength with every thought and act. Yes, they do not consider the dark price to be paid – HIV and AIDS and an early death. BUT, the children are themselves guilty of allied sins – greed, deception, lies, etc. And even from a young age children can be sexualised, so their sexual experiences carry forward into teen age and later. They also indulge in other sexualities, freely and of their own volition; promiscuity is now almost commonplace amongst children, because unmarried sex is one of the most easily achieved of sins. So, are they free of guilt when they are groomed?

No, they are not. The groomer sins, but so do the groomed, whose cooperation is vital if the groomer is to get away with what he or she does. To put it another way, if a child is attacked and forced, the homosexual act is rape, because the child does not consent, and, even if he or she does consent, it is under-age and so illegal anyway. Grooming is another matter altogether, because there is no attack, only a gradual duping of the victim, whose own sins – greed, lies, and deception, are the other side of this wicked crime. The two are needed for the crime to exist at all. The children might not know of consequences, but they know enough to hide what happens from others, so they can make some gain.

Yes, the whole situation is complex, but did they commit sin, yes or no?

I find it hard to accept their excuses, that their current homosexuality is caused by predators, when they also admit they colluded with the predators in order to gain something for themselves. In God’s eyes, they are also guilty, not of the same crime, but certainly of their own sins. They knew right from wrong, and still do so as they progress into adult homosexuality. It is good that they then wish to get out of such a foul lifestyle, but they must first face the ugliness of their own part in their nasty sexual downfall. Only when they do this can anyone truly help them overcome, and return to normality. Having said that, no Christian can counsel an unbelieving homosexual of any age, because there is no recognition of sin and the need to repent and change.

Adult homosexuals KNOW they are doing what is distasteful, wrong and foul. How they go about what they do is proof of this guilt. However, Christians should not allow excuses to blur the edges of God’s judgments just because some are young and have been groomed. Collusion in sin is as bad as the sin itself, and the sin of those who groom. Therefore, grooming is not a biblical ‘reason’ to absolve young homosexuals of their sins. Rather, as with all sins, they must first face the truth – that they are partly to blame for their condition, not necessarily by sexual acts, but by their desire to get something free from their groomers. It is not about knowing the full consequences of what they do. It is about accepting God’s view – did they sin? Yes. Then, they are equally guilty. Discuss these moot points!

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